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Saturday, February 26, 2011

Working on the Ceremony


Brad and I worked on our ceremony last night.
The goal was to select our vows, exchanging of the rings, and readings.

We even get bonus points because we talked about our first dance song choices--
which we've narrowed down to two... the two that we've been debating over for months.
Love Song by 311 OR Stay With You by John Legend
So I don't really know if we get bonus points for that. But at least we revisited the topic.

Ah! But we did choose our cake cutting song ... I Wanna Grow Old With You by Adam Sandler.
:)

Back to the ceremony.
I think we're going to stay with more tradition vows.
We're still up in the air on the exchanging of the rings.

We really liked the following two readings.


The Art of Marriage by Wilferd A. Peterson

The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating
gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.


Love Is by Susan Polis Schutz

Love is
being happy for the other person
when they are happy
being sad for the other person when they are sad
being together in good times
and being together in bad times
Love is the source of strength

Love is
being honest with yourself at all times
being honest with the other person at all times
telling, listening, respecting the truth
and never pretending
Love is the source of reality

Love is
an understanding that is so complete that
you feel as if you are a part of the other person
accepting the other person just the way they are
and not trying to change them to be something else
Love is the source of unity

Love is
the freedom to pursue your own desires
while sharing your experience with the other person
the growth of one individual along side of
and together with the growth of another individual
Love is the source of success

Love is
the excitement of planning things together
the excitement of doing things together
Love is the source of the future

Love is
the fury of the storm
the calm of the rainbow
Love is the source of passion

Love is
giving and taking in a daily situation
being patient with each other's needs and desires
Love is the source of sharing

Love is
knowing that the other person
will always be with you regardless of what happens
missing the other person when they are away
but remaining near in heart at all times
Love is the source of security

Love is
the source of life


What kind of vows, exchanging of the rings, and readings did you go with or are you going with?

5 comments:

  1. Thanks for sharing these! I really like the first reading... I'm going to share it with my fiance. We haven't started with our specifics on the ceremony like I wish we had!

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  2. Beautiful readings.
    We are going with the traditional Catholic vows (not much of a choice).
    We got to choose to recite them or just simply say I Do. We're choosing to do both.

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  3. Awww I love both of these!! We've been going back and forth as well on what kind of ceremony and vows we'll be doing! Decisions, decisions!

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  4. You picked such fab readings; that second one is my fave :)

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